Posted by Anonymous on 2015/05/30 under Uncategorized Rejection and accepted have different levels. Acceptance: Ambivalence : Others do not care if the individual is included or excluded. Passive Exclusion: Others ignore the individual Relational Value is the key to perceive rejection. Because when the person feels that she is not being treated the same way that she treats people (with the same intimacy or warmth) the person can tell that the connection is not happening and they fall into a social game. Being socially rejected is sometimes inevitable. It is said to be and essential part of interpersonal life. Because no body can accept everyone.Because we do not have time for so much social niches and it is not possible to go deep if you have too much niches to work on. Third, we devalue, avoid, and ostracize people who take more than they
Maximal inclusion – others make effort to talk to you, seek you hard.
Active Inclusion – Others Welcome the individual
Passive inclusion – Others allow the individual to be included.
Active exclusion : Other avoid the individual
Maximal Exclusion: Others effectively reject the individual, bullying being practiced.
People want to be seen as having a characteristic that other people value. efforts to be accepted typically involve showing oneself
to be some combination of likeable, competent, attractive, and, often,
trustworthy (as least in the context of the relationship itself). Although people want to be seen as having unique attributes that make them irreplaceble and unique by the individuals they want value from.
. The arsenal of remedial tactics that people use after embarrassing
and guilt-inducing events—apologies, excuses, justifications, and the like—
help to restore relational value when they have shown themselves to be a
less-than-ideal relational partner. (social game)
give or exploit us in other ways. Research on equity theory has documented
the importance of fairness in human relationships. Inequity causes anger and
other negative emotions, lowers contentment with the relationship, and undermines
relationship. If you add less than you take, you will make people angry.